Dating Question About Older Men, Younger Women
Chloe asks: “I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 31. He’s ready to start a family with me, but I feel like I’m too young to even start thinking about having kids. I’m flattered that he wants me as the mother of his children but the thought scares me too. He’s the only guy I’ve ever dated, and I really care about him a lot. How do I tell him I’m not ready for kids without him breaking up with me over it?”
What concerns me most about your question Chloe is the older man aspect of your equation. You probably already know, but dating someone who is thirteen years older than you at this stage of your life is a challenge at the best of times. He’s ready to settle down and you aren’t. He’s already learned how to be independent and live as an adult, whereas you’re just getting started – and may still be finishing high school. Basically, your goals and aspirations aren’t going to jive with your boyfriends’.
This might be difficult to hear, and I realize its not what you’re asking, but you need to tell him that you’re not ready to have kids yet and prepare yourself for the relationship ending because of it. This isn’t your time to start a family, and from what you’ve said, that won’t change anytime soon. If he’s dead set on having kids ASAP, then it might be best for both of you if things ended now.
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Dating Question About Older Men, Younger Women originally appeared on About.com Dating on Sunday, February 28th, 2010 at 00:10:44.
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Dating Question About Older Men, Younger Women
Chloe asks: “I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 31. He’s ready to start a family with me, but I feel like I’m too young to even start thinking about having kids. I’m flattered that he wants me as the mother of his children but the thought scares me too. He’s the only guy I’ve ever dated, and I really care about him a lot. How do I tell him I’m not ready for kids without him breaking up with me over it?”
What concerns me most about your question Chloe is the older man aspect of your equation. You probably already know, but dating someone who is thirteen years older than you at this stage of your life is a challenge at the best of times. He’s ready to settle down and you aren’t. He’s already learned how to be independent and live as an adult, whereas you’re just getting started – and may still be finishing high school. Basically, your goals and aspirations aren’t going to jive with your boyfriends’.
This might be difficult to hear, and I realize its not what you’re asking, but you need to tell him that you’re not ready to have kids yet and prepare yourself for the relationship ending because of it. This isn’t your time to start a family, and from what you’ve said, that won’t change anytime soon. If he’s dead set on having kids ASAP, then it might be best for both of you if things ended now.
Related: Relationship Expectations, Will Our Relationship Last Quiz, Communication Skills Quiz for Couples, Should We Take This Relationship To The Next Level or End It?
Dating Question About Older Men, Younger Women originally appeared on About.com Dating on Sunday, February 28th, 2010 at 00:10:44.
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- Dating Question About Older Men, Younger Women Chloe asks: “I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 31. He’s ready to start a family...
- Dating Question – He Suddenly Doesn’t Want Commitment Janelle asks, “I have been in relationship with a guy for the past 7 months....
- Dating Question – He Suddenly Doesn’t Want Commitment Janelle asks, “I have been in relationship with a guy for the past 7 months....
- Why Won’t He Date Me – Dating Question Sandboxes asks, “I am 47, “Bob” is 39. We connected using ‘Are You Interested’ on...
- Dating Question About Flirting While In A Relationship Dawn asks, “What is your opinion on flirting with others when you’re in a relationship?...
